BOLD JOURNEY interview (July 2, 2024)

1. How did you overcome imposter syndrome?

I believe that a great deal of people go through periods in their lives asking the question, “Am I worthy?” As a musician, a father, a son, a husband, and a friend, I sometimes wonder if I can actually live up to the image that people have of me. But spending all of your precious hours worrying about others’ opinions can leave you feeling empty, insecure, and unproductive. I think it’s important to focus on the quality of your work and your relationships. Be the best version of yourself. And whenever possible, avoid comparing yourself with everyone around you. Enjoy your self and the characteristics that make you unique. Remember: don’t prove yourself, improve yourself.

2. The next part of the interview is where we’d love to learn more about you, your story and what you are focused on professionally – whether it’s a business, nonprofit, artistic career etc.
Please tell our readers about what you do, what you feel is most exciting or special about it, as well as anything else you’d like folks to know about your brand/art/etc. If relevant, please also tell our readers about anything new (events, product/service launches, expansion, etc)

I work as a freelance drummer. Basically, I get hired to record drums and percussion on albums, or to perform live with artists and bands. Sometimes, it can be for only one song or one concert. Other times, it can be for an entire album or a year-long tour. I started out as a high school hobbyist, and then proceeded to study music in college at The University of Miami’s School of Music. When I graduated, I had the skills to perform in many different environments and situations. My career has been filled with exciting challenges and adventures. Over the years, some of my main clients have been: Shakira, Morrissey, Perry Farrell, Tegan & Sara, Shelby Lynne, Damien Rice, Daniel Powter, Roberto Carlos, Beto Cuevas, Fulano, Melissa Ethridge, Miley Cyrus, Julio Iglesias, Paulina Rubio, Alejandra Guzman, Idina Menzel, Minnie Driver, Leehom Wang, Miyavi, Jackson Wang, JJ Lin, and Natalia LaFourcade. When I am not traveling, I work out of my LA-based recording studio Reflector Music. I have a social media project called DrummerPlusDrummer. And I enjoy teaching others music either in-person or via Zoom.

3. Looking back, what do you think were the three qualities, skills, or areas of knowledge that were most impactful in your journey? What advice do you have for folks who are early in their journey in terms of how they can best develop or improve on these?

1. Dependability
2. Enthusiasm
3. Patience

“Dependability” has probably been my most valuable quality in both music and life. My friends, family, and workmates know that I will do everything in my power to accomplish the job at hand. I will prepare myself, and foresee as many obstacles as possible.

“Enthusiasm” is a valuable quality as well. Having a curiosity and positive attitude toward the work and the people around you helps lift the mood. Be excited, helpful, and open to new challenges.

“Patience” is a subtle quality that can pay high dividends. There are instances in which overreactions can worsen the situation. Often, it’s best to be patient, and play the long game. Pick and choose your battles well. Improve your tolerance.

4. What do you do when you feel overwhelmed? Any advice or strategies?

My main technique to combat the feelings of being overwhelmed is to come up with a plan. Take time to get organized. I’ll often sit down with a journal, or a pen & paper, or even the Notes app in my iPhone, and begin jotting down the things that I have to do, their order of priority, and the due dates (if there are any). Once I have this basic structure, I can look at everything as a whole, and realistically begin accomplishing the important tasks, and postponing the unimportant ones. Procrastination and lack-of-planning are usually the two biggest causes of my anxiety.

Jiu Jitsu around the world

A friend of mine recently challenged me to list all of the places at which I’ve trained Brazilian Jiu Jitsu around the globe. I came up with 109 academies (although I know I am still leaving out a small handful). Here is the current list as of January 1st, 2024.

USA
– Los Angeles: Renzo Gracie LA
– Los Angeles: 5 Star
– Los Angeles: Zenki (UCKA)
– Los Angeles: 10th Planet
– Pasadena: Common Ground
– Woodland Hills: Jean Jacques Machado
– Northridge: Pat King Jiu Jitsu
– Glendale: Gracie Barra
– Glendale: Total Jiu Jitsu
– Long Beach: Neutral Grounds
– Torrance: Rodrigo Gracie
– Costa Mesa: AOJ
– Bell: Ghetto Dojo
– San Francisco: Ralph Gracie
– Oakland: Ralph Gracie
– Las Vegas: Rodrigo Gracie
– Las Vegas: Zenith BJJ
– Las Vegas: 10th Planet
– Las Vegas: Ricardo Cavalcanti
– Las Vegas: UFC
– Salt Lake City: Combat BJJ
– Dallas: Marcelo Garcia BJJ
– Dallas: Carlos Machado
– North Miami: Valente Bros HQ
– North Miami: Marcus Aurelio Jiu Jitsu
– Miami: Valente Bros Coral Gables
– Miami: Rilion Gracie
– Kendall: Zen Jiu Jitsu
– West Palm Beach: Rogue Wave
– West Palm Beach: Renzo Gracie
– Orlando: Fabin Rosa BJJ
– Washington DC: Estilo BJJ
– NYC: Renzo Gracie Academy h.q.
– NYC: Marcelo Garcia
– NYC: New York Jiu Jitsu
– NYC: Vitor Shaolin Jiu Jitsu
– NYC: Renzo Gracie Union Sq
– Brooklyn: Renzo Gracie
– Rockaway NJ: Pure MMA
– Flanders NJ: Gael Force BJJ
– Northern Valley NJ: Renzo Gracie
– Philadelphia: Gracie Academy
– Portland, Maine: (Portland MMA)
– Boston: Gracie Barra
– Chicago: Redzovic BJJ
– Nashville: Nashville BJJ
– Nashville: Renzo Gracie
– Denver: Easton Training Center
– Detroit: 313 BJJ
– Milwaukee: Neutral Ground Academy
– Kansas City: Gracie Humaita
– Cincinnati: Limitless Jiu Jitsu
– Fairfax VA: Abmar Barbosa BJJ
– Richmond VA: Richmond BJJ
– Ybor City: Ybor City Jiu Jitsu Club
– Charlotte NC: Charlotte Jiu Jitsu Academy

Canada
– Toronto: Toronto BJJ
– Toronto: Inner City MMA
– Montreal: Gracie Barra
– Vancouver: Lion MMA
– Regina: Complete MMA

Europe
– London: Roger Gracie Academy
– London: 10th Planet
– Leeds: Game Fight BJJ
– Glasgow: Gracie Barra
– Dublin: Republic of Jiu Jitsu
– Killarney: SBG BJJ
– Liverpool: Next Generation MMA
– Barcelona: Robin Gracie
– Barcelona: Barcelona BJJ
– Madrid: Checkmat BJJ
– Lisbon: Gracie Lisboa
– Paris: Champs BJJ
– Paris: Gracie Barra
– Marseille: Gracie Barra
– Berlin: BJJ Akademie
– Hamburg: Nexus Fighting Academy
– Cologne: Helios Project BJJ
– Luxembourg: Uplay BJJ
– Oslo: Frontline Academy
– Tel Aviv: Fight Tel Aviv

Central America
– Mexico City: Renzo Gracie Polanco
– Mexico City: MD Self Defense Condesa
– Monterrey: Gracie Barra

South America
– Rio de Janeiro: Gracie Humaita
– Brasilia: Ricardo Bittencort jiu jitsu
– São Paulo: Alliance BJJ
– Porto Alegre: Mario Reis BJJ
– Buenos Aires: Gracie Barra
– Rosario: Renzo Gracie
– Santiago de Chile: Alliance BJJ
– Santiago de Chile: Pacific Top Team
– Guayaquil: Alliance BJJ

Asia
– Hong Kong: Kowloon BJJ
– Taipei: Taiwan BJJ
– Shanghai: Shanghai BJJ
– Shanghai: Absolute MMA
– Shanghai: Evolve MMA
– Beijing: China Top Team
– Beijing: Red Forest Jiu Jitsu
– Beijing: Beijing Jiu Jitsu Academy
– Seoul: Gracie Academy
– Singapore: Evolve MMA
– Singapore: Singapore Jiu Jitsu

Australia/NewZealand
– Sydney: Gracie Barra
– Sydney: MonstarZen Martial Arts
– Sydney: Gracie Sydney
– Melbourne: Absolute MMA
– Auckland: Tukaha Jiu Jitsu

Africa
– (none yet)

SHOUT OUT LA (Interview)
Brendan Buckley

– What was your thought process behind starting your own business?

I must admit, my “business” just sort of happened. I was spending the majority of my late-teens learning how to play an instrument, the drumset. I remember being immensely fascinated with the craft. Then, people started paying me money to play the drums with them. My idea at the time was, “If I can cover my rent, groceries, and gas bills, then I can funnel any leftover income into more music!” It was a simple life. My main goals were to systematically improve my drumming skills, while expanding my network of co-workers within the music industry. That is basically what I am still doing today. And, one must remember that it is important to enjoy the journey too.

– Do you have a budget? How do you think about your personal finances and how do you make lifestyle and spending decisions?

I am a freelance musician. This means that every year of my career looks remarkably different than the previous one. And, I actually have very little ability to predict what adventures lie around the corner. I work with a variety of different artists. Sometimes, I am hired by a manager or artist to perform on a live concert tour. Other times, I am hired by a producer or artist to record music in a studio for a new album. All this considered, I calculate my monthly and annual overhead, and I make sure that I cover all of those costs before going beyond that to enjoy family vacations, home repairs, new sneakers, etc.

– Risk taking: how do you think about risk, what role has taking risks played in your life/career?

It is difficult to move forward in life without taking some risks. And in my opinion, the best years to take those risks are when you are young (late-teens and 20’s). At that period in life, there is still a lot of time for trial and error. You can discover your likes and dislikes. You can discover the kind of person you are. Drumming is all I wanted to do with my life, and I was willing to sacrifice everything to pursue my love for it. And this passion helped me get through many of the high and low points along the way

– Where are you from and how did your background and upbringing impact who you are today?

I was born in a suburban area of north New Jersey. My upbringing was surrounded by lakes, and trees, and outdoor sports, and skateboards. It was a typical 80’s childhood influenced by MTV, Ferris Bueller, and shopping malls. My Irish father was quite good at having fun, organizing social events, and providing for the family. My Korean mother excelled at keeping me on track scholastically. I believe that the balance of my childhood, and the independence I had upon moving to Miami for college, both had a major role in creating the person I am today.

– What is the most important factor behind your success/the success of your brand?

I suppose that most clients and work associates would say that “dependability” would be one of my strong suits. I focus a lot on preparedness, organization, confidence, consistency. These qualities add value to my brand. I enjoy bringing the elements of safety, comfort, and helpfulness to the lives of the people around me. Humor is also essential medicine to me.

– What value or principle matters most to you? Why?

I admire the value of “discipline” in others. We all know that life can be quite challenging. I am inspired by people who overcome the chaos and hurdles that the world throws their way by establishing solid moral codes, positive work-ethics, productive daily planning, and so on. I feel as though so much can be accomplished if we possess a disciplined persistence.

– Work life balance: how has your balance changed over time? How do you think about the balance?

When I was younger, I lived a simpler, more selfish life. It sounds cliché, but I lived and breathed music and only music. But when I entered my 30’s, I began to sense that there was more to life than dedicating your soul to a single craft. I yearned for balance and experiences. I peered into the possible future and saw a bitter and disgruntled human being with very little time to enjoy the world. Since then, work/life balance has become a major priority. Time is our most valuable currency. Pay attention to how you spend it.

– What’s the end goal? Where do you want to be professionally by the end of your career?

My end goal would be to create art up until the moment my time is up on this planet, and to do so with as much joy and as little regret as possible. Also, I have a strong desire to provide an excellent life experience for my wife and son. In a perfect world, we would all give back as much as we take (if not more). Therefore, I am interested in finding big and small ways to give back to the people around me.

– Why did you pursue and artistic or creative career?

I have always been enthralled with music, and something about the drumset in particular truly bewitched me. It could be its combination of expression mixed with complexity. The dynamic power and the limb-coordination. By around the age of 16, it was the only thing on my mind. I could not foresee myself doing anything else. It became entwined with my identity. And it still captivates me.

– Tell us about a book you’ve read and why you like it/what impact it had on you.

There have been a mountain of books that have impacted me over the years. The first one that comes to mind is “The Inner Game of Tennis” by Timothy Gallwey. My college professor Steven Rucker recommended this book to his students to help calm the self-talk and doubt that rattles around in the mind while trying to accomplish an activity or task. It is a fantastic book for anyone that battles with nerves or stage-fright.

Big Fat Five podcast
(5 albums that inspired me)

1.Stewart Copeland “Can’t Stand Losing You” on The Police’s “Outlandos D’Amour” 1978

2.Brian Blade “Wayne’s Thang” on Kenny Garrett’s “Triology” 1995

3.Will Calhoun “Cult of Personality” on Living Colour’s “Vivid” 1988

4.Steve Gadd “Late In The Evening” on Paul Simon’s “One Trick Pony” 1980

5.Carlinhos Brown “Magalenha” on Sergio Mendes’s “Brasileiro” 1992

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Honorable Mentions:
– Kenny Werner: “Meditation 1-4 “Effortless Mastery” 1996

– Carlos Vega: “Country Road” on James Taylor’s “Live” 1993

– Omar Hakim: “Fortress Around Your Heart” on Sting’s “The Dream of the Blue Turtles” 1985

– Steve Jordan: “Ramblin” on David Sanborn’s “Upfront” 1992

– John Bonham: “Good Times Bad Times” on Led Zeppelin 1 1969

– Stephen Perkins: “Mountain Song” on Jane’s Addiction’s “Nothing’s Shocking” 1988

– Matt Cameron: “Ugly Truth” on Soundgarden’s “Louder Than Love” 1989

– Dennis Chambers: “Blue Matter” on John Scofield’s “Blue Matter” 1986

– Matt Chamberlain: “A Sort Of Fairytale” on Tori Amos’s “Scarlet’s Walk” 2002

– Tony Williams: “So What” on Miles Davis’s “Four And More” 1966

– Bill Stewart: “She’s So Lucky” on John Scofield’s “Hand Jive” 1994

– Boris Williams: “Icing Sugar” on The Cure’s “Kiss Me Kiss Me Kiss Me” 1987

Rafael Padilla

Working and spending time with master percussionist Rafael Padilla changed my life. Rafa was obsessed with the groove. He always searched for the heaviest, deepest pocket in music. He loved life. He was soulful. He had the best stories. Incredible, hilarious, entertaining stories. He is the person who encouraged me to move to Los Angeles. He loved coffee and early morning hikes. On tour, we would explore entire cities looking for the perfect cappuccino.
Thank you for everything Rafa. I will miss you terribly. 💔